It's how much you enjoy the hospital experience.
When I was pregnant with both my younger pair, I counted my impending hospital stay as one of the highlights of the whole experience. Because I didn't have to
look after the toddler(s)
go to the supermarket
and I received
reasonably nice meals three times a day
morning and afternoon tea
quite pleasant drugs
daily bed making
a nursery for my tiny weeny newborn to spend quality time while I slept.
|They are teeny weeny and come in a handy cart with wheels.|
Well I did anyway.
And because you know, once you do return home. It's like, forever.
|On the up side, once you get home, you have friends to help you get the hang of breastfeeding.|
(I know I was very lucky because I've never had a hint of PND but I can imagine that is quite a different, more serious kettle of fish)
Mike's blessed folks would bring the smaller one(s) to visit in the afternoons so I could have my fix of them. They would arrive immaculately dressed with healthy snacks and leave again in good order when they started getting festy. A happy dream.
AND all our babies were born on the Friday before a long weekend. So we often had friends arrive with cheese and crackers, beer and champagne. It was very social and pleasant.
And consequently I've always been a bit kerflummoxed by mums who say things like "Oh I left hospital early, I was bored" or "I just wanted to be in my own bed".
Are you mad?? They bring you dinner!! I would prefer to be a bit bored and have dinner cooked for me than be mentally stimulated and have to get it myself.
An my own bed doesn't have a cool mechanism to lift it up and down which is ideal for a poor new mum with a row of dirty great stitches across her lower abdomen.
But as with all things motherhood, everyone must simply do what suits them, so if you're own bed called you a day early, or you couldn't wait to get out of there, clearly that was right for you. You probably think I'm bonkers.
For me the thought of those 5 days in hospital are almost enough for me to consider a fourth. Almost.